This week is more focused towards those of us who have chosen the slightly mad existence of moving around the globe every few years. It’s certainly not everyone’s cup of tea but I love it! I love the change, the challenge and the excitement, not to mention the amazing people you meet, but it does have it’s wobbly moments, and most of these tend to cluster around leaving and arriving! Even if you don’t move countries on a regular basis it’s likely you have, and will again move job, house, project, team etc, so I hope there might be a nugget of something useful or thought provoking ahead!
It’s natural for us to feel distracted by and drawn to the past and the future. Memories, dreams, hopes and desires live there! But, I’m convinced that those people who pretty much stay in the present are generally calmer, more philosophical, content and yes, dare I say it! happier 🙂
I was chatting to a friend of mine who is due to move at some point over the next few months. The move is not yet absolutely certain and the period of uncertainty has had its moments. I can relate to how she feels, we’re in the same boat! For about the last nine months we have known we will move by July 2014 at the latest, but we still don’t know exactly when we will leave or where we will go! At times like this we have a choice, do we stay or do we start to stray?
Having lived overseas for the last five years and watched many people come and go I’ve noticed a pattern. Firstly those leaving; The people who stay firmly where they are physically and emotionally until pretty much the day they actually leave seem happier in themselves and for others to be around than those who kind of ‘check out’ a few months before the removal truck arrives. Then there’s the new arrivals and again, those who put both feet firmly on, or better still, in the new soil rather than having one foot hovering over the soil they’ve left, tend to settle quickly and happily.
Even though I’m starting to plan and think about the logistics, the challenges and the opportunities of potential new destinations, I am very aware that I need and want to keep my emotional energy slap bang where I am. There is definitely a part of my brain that questions whether it’s worth investing in projects, people and a place I will soon leave in a physical capacity, but if I check out now I am choosing to put myself in an emotional no mans land and that is a pretty baron place to be! It also has a nasty effect on those around you!
Looking after your energy during a period of transition, particularly unsettled transition is tricky. Your emotional energy is very precious and vulnerable and if it isn’t looked after it can leak out of you like water in a holy bucket. If you direct it to an unknown future or stuff you can’t affect from the past the energy just goes flying out into the stratosphere and you lose it.
But, if you stay very conscious of keeping your energy within the space you are currently occupying, and focussed on that which you can effect and influence it works to your advantage, giving you a powerful sense of focus, warmth, positivity, philosophy and perspective. I find it helps me to think of my emotional energy as finite rather than infinite so I need to be careful how I use and direct it!
Next week I’ll share with you a very simple tool to help bring this to life, especially useful for those of us prone to worrying! but for now……
Be exactly where you are, it’s the only place you can be so be sure that the whole of you is there!